Myth # 6: All non-monogamous people are kinky
I’m gonna proceed a directly blame the news when it comes to presumption that, in the event that you exercise non- monogamy, you need to additionally be profoundly kinky. Can the 2 occur together? Yes. Not always.
First, non-monogamy just isn’t kink in as well as it self. But once individuals think about non-monogamy, their minds head to one destination – fast. Intercourse! If monogamy is classified by devoid of intercourse with everybody, then non-monogamy should be about making love with everyone, appropriate? It should be about threesomes, and foursomes, and team intercourse, and orgies, and swingers events with fire respiration, fabric clad jugglers in nipple clamps moving through the chandeliers.
Um…no. The stark reality is usually much more tame.
Non-monogamy merely means, as we’ve discussed, the capability to be with over only one individual. It will not imply that one is fundamentally with numerous lovers simultaneously. It doesn’t imply that a person is fundamentally having sex that is indiscriminate. Also it does not always mean this 1 is, whilst having sex that is indiscriminate numerous lovers simultaneously, additionally strapped to your sleep with leather-based cuffs in nipple clamps and a crystal butt plug.
Is one to enjoy a non-monogamous relationship and a crystal butt plug during the time that is same? Certain. But one could just like easily exercise relationship anarchy while being positively vanilla (or not- kinky, for anybody whom didn’t read 50 tones) along with lovers they have a go at.
The news could have you genuinely believe that we’re all leather clad in feather masks flouncing around at play events breaking our cycling plants (and ok, perhaps some people have already been recognized to regular play events breaking riding plants) however, kink is its very own thing, in its very very own right, totally split from non-monogamy and, no, not all non-monogamous individual is into “butt stuff.” Let’s just go right ahead and clear that up at this time.