In the event that you don’t really understand me personally you might not realize that We identify as queer.
Folks are usually amazed whenever they are told by me i date ladies, too, because we can “pass” as being directly. We don’t have actually the stereotypical markers of queerness that some individuals look out for in queer ladies: tattoos, brief locks, rainbows and Xena (hey Haydee!), flannel shirt, etc. (believe me, I attempted the faux hawk thing plus it didn’t work with me!).
We identify as “femme” and We possess and think it’s great. My ness that is femme does make me any less queer, radical, or feminist, because i will be working out agency to determine just just what queerness and womanhood look and feel like for me personally. In addition, stereotypes that expect lesbian women become butch, and homosexual males to be feminine further perpetuate heteronormativity and erase the mandatory difference between sex identification and intimate orientation. A subject for an extended blog post.
As you’re able to imagine, my capability to “pass” as straight and being viewed as usually feminine give me usage of specific privileges (cis and hetero ).